Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Ubuntu: I Am Because of You

Image courtesy of somalilandpress.com
On December 5, 2013, the world mourn for loosing one of his geniuses and greatest leader with a big heart - Nelson Mandela.

Although I never really met Mandela, I felt I already had my personal encounter with him. This Nobel Peace Prize awardee and former President revolutionize my perspective on ubuntu. I have known Ubuntu as a simple, fast and open-source Linux-based operating system. Had the opportunity to use it for more than five years as a secured alternative to the Apple and Microsoft's dominance. But for Mandela, Ubuntu is a way of life, an energy you could choose to deliberately stand for, he owned it and made it his life's statement.

Ubuntu is a South African philosophy which means 'humanity to others'. It also means 'I am what I am because of who we all are'. The word promotes our interconnectedness and the responsibility to each other that flows from our connection.
There is a word in South Africa -- Ubuntu -- a word that captures Mandela’s greatest gift:  his recognition that we are all bound together in ways that are invisible to the eye; that there is a oneness to humanity; that we achieve ourselves by sharing ourselves with others, and caring for those around us.
Snippet from Barrack Obama's eulogy to Mandela            

Aside from Ubuntu philosophy, Mandela also left us with manifold of inspiring thoughts and quotes, below are some of my favorites:
Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.
A good head and a good heart is always a formidable combination.
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.
It always seem impossible until it's done.
For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.
If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.
As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
Mabuhay ka Mandela! For relentlessly fighting for peace and unity not only for your own country or race but for the entire humanity. This noble act of yours is more than enough to keep you immortal in our hearts.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Movie: Catching Fire

After being blown away by "The Hunger Games" movie last year, I became an instant fan of Katniss Everdeen. I can even recall taking archery class at Gandiva few weeks after seeing the movie. Katniss not only inspires me with her girl power impact she also awaken my tenuous appetite of watching movies in big screen. I have my own reasons, aside from watching in cinemas being expensive and impractical(my frugal identity speaking), downloading movies nowadays is like stealing candy from a baby. But Hunger Games defy my self-imposed rule, I cannot miss to watch this in wide screen. No way! This is one of the very reason I became excited for November to come, well aside from my birthday of course. :)

I have the privilege of reading all The Hunger Games trilogy (thanks to my book sponsor) but I am still equally excited to watch the movie.


Kudos! First to the author Suzanne Collins, for her outstanding prolific minds. Second to the entire cast and production team of The Hunger Games: Catching Fire for the great adaptation of the book into a motion picture. 


Here are some of my favorite lines both from book and the movie:


“I always channel my emotions into my work. That way, I don't hurt anyone but myself.” --Cinna


"Remember who the real enemy is" --Haymitch


"People are looking to you, Katniss. You've given them an opportunity. They just have to be brave enough to take it." --Gale


“We had to save you because you're the mockingjay, Katniss, while you live, the revolution lives.” --Plutarch

“At some point, you have to stop running and turn around and face whoever wants you dead.The hard thing is finding the courage to do it.” --Suzanne Collins 


“Aim higher in case you fall short.” --Suzanne Collins


“It must be very fragile, if a handful of berries can bring it down.” --Katniss Everdeen


"You know, you could live a thousand lifetimes and not deserve him."


"That if desperate times call for desperate measures, then I'm free to act as desperately as I wish."

"Remember, girl on fire, I'm still betting on you." --Cinna

"But Mockingjays were never a weapon," said Madge. "They’re just songbirds. Right? "Yeah, I guess so,” I said, But it’s not true. A mockingbird is just a songbird. A mockingjay is a creature the capitol never intended to exist. They hadn’t counted on the highly controlled jabberjay having the brains to adapt to the wiled, to thrive in a new form. They hadn’t anticipated its will to live."




I will see you again next year Katniss! :)

Monday, December 2, 2013

Dear Ces

Other people believe there's no good in goodbyes, after all goodbye means leaving the people you love, abandoning the somewhat routine you've been used to, walking away from the career you've already established and starting all over again in a new place you wish to call home.

But for you leaving is more than just parting ways or an escape. It is obedience to the One who calls us to go where ever we are right now. It means having the courage to make that step of faith even though it does not make sense at the moment. And for those reasons, I can only be grateful for the opportunity to have met someone who loves the Lord as much as you do. Someone who intentionally make that effort to tune in to God's heart and surrender to His plans.

More than a friend, you are a sister in Christ who is always there to listen to our frustrations and daily struggles at work. You have inspired us with your stories of love and sacrifices at work and to your circle of influence. You are as noble as your profession. You also reminded me of the infinite love of God with His patience and perseverance in pursuing you to be His daughter. And just recently you have demonstrated how you chose to remain at peace with the Lord, always grateful, even if the seemingly important possession are taken away from us. If your newly bought Gold iPhone 5S returns to you anytime now, it'll only be an icing on top of the cake, because you already learned the essentials. To never rely on the material gifts but to always focus on the Giver.

A friend once said, leaving is for the brave. You are brave! Brave enough to leave the comfortable life here in Singapore. Brave enough to face the unknown back in the Philippines. Brave because I know it is the word and promises of God that gives you the courage to move.

Thank you Ces for blessing us with your life's testimony. I am certain that this is not the end but just the beginning of more opportunities to be used by God in our dear country. Greater space of serving and growing closer to Him.

God bless you Ces! Just like the old song, "I can't say goodbye to you, no matter how I try" ( Please don't make me sing the song :D si Belle na lang or si Kitin baka magvolunteer :P ) because all my heart wants to do right now is to cheer you with a "Go Ces! Follow your heart as you follow the Lord!"



Here are some of the many pictures together with our all girls dgroup. We may come from different backgrounds and orientations but its comforting to know that the love of God unite us together in this circle of friends. Hopefully these bring a thousand smile to your charming face even if we'll be thousand miles away.












P.S.
Honestly I had a hard time more on filtering which photos to include in this post because we have so many ;))

Friday, November 29, 2013

Growing Deep in Faith (Part2)

Here's a sequel of my Growing Deep in Faith post early this year. Since the inspiring thoughts and light bulb moments I had while reading this book is overwhelming I decided to make another post of the sections I considered highlights of this book.

Enjoy reading!

A Worthwhile Exchange

There are only three things you can do with your life. Squander it. Spend it. Or invest it.
We all exchange our lives for something - career, dreams, family, position or love. Many fail to live well because they have failed to exchange their life for worthwhile things.

Looking Up Together

It was not the city that gave significance to the temple. Rather, it was the temple of God that gave significance to Jerusalem as the city of God.

We seek God not because He is lost or absent, but because He is present and invites us to seek Him. For if God were not present, it would be futile to seek Him.We seek God because He has availed Himself to us.

Faith that Overcomes Worry

From God's point of view there are three basic reasons why people are paralysed by their anxieties:

1. Having your treasures in the wrong place
2. Viewing life from the wrong perspective
We worry because we failed to see God in the circumstances of our lives.
3. Serving the wrong master

We cannot live a life that is problem-free but we can live a life that is worry-free.

Faith and the Discipleship of Joy

We do not need to know many things to have joy, just three basic truths about God:

1. God is supremely God. He is the supremest Supreme; the mightiest Almighty. Our existence is through Him and our identity is in Him.
2. God id supremely Good. His mercy is everlasting and His faithfulness is eternal.
3. God is supremely in control. This is not to say that He is a controlling God. Rather, His grand creation (God is God) and His gracious compassion (God is good) are governed by His glorious character (God is in control, nothing is beyond His sovereign will)

PNB Online Remittance through DBS iBanking

Requirements:
1. User is registered to PNB
2. User made a one time remittance with PNB to acquire a 14-digit reference number for the bank account where future remittance will be done
3. User must be enrolled in the iBanking facility of DBS
4. User should have a DBS iBanking Secure device

Remit Online:
1. Log-in to DBS iBanking https://internet-banking.dbs.com.sg/IB/Welcome
2. Select Bills Payment

3. Select "Philippine National Bank" from the dropdown options

4. Select the account where to debit
5. Key in the amount you want to send. Please note that remittance fee (SGD5.00) will be deducted from the inputted amount.
You may refer to the PNB foreign exchange conversion at http://www.pnb.com.ph/singapore/
6. Key in your 14 digit reference number
7. Select  Payment Type
8. Click Submit

9. Input necessary DBS one-time PIN validation to confirm your transaction

10. You should be able to see the summary of your completed transaction


 

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Elderly Love @All Saints Home

Have you imagined a time when a woman will no longer be insecure with her body, when beauty is no longer defined by flawless skin, black and shiny hair, charming face and a voluptuous figure. When a man no longer tries to seek approval from others by trying to accumulate his achievement, when masculinity is not measured by the sturdy abs and muscles they formed through rigid workout. Well I initially I thought that all these are product of my wishful thinking and it's impossible to reach this point someday, but surprisingly I was wrong. This kind of world already exist, not in the future but in our today -- through the lives of the elderly people. You may not have picture my analogy in its ideal form but it doesn't remove the fact that these folks are free from all the petty concerns of life which society and media dictates.

While others are focusing all their strength in the goals they thought would give value to their life, these people cease struggling because they already understood what are the real essentials of life.

This is exactly what we've experience with the uncle and aunties(as how Singapore used to call their old folks) from the All Saints Home in Tampines last Saturday, November 16, 2013, where we had the opportunity to celebrate with the 6 elderly having their birthday this November and almost 60 residents of the home.


I will never forget the genuine smile in their faces when we wheel them down in their wheelchairs so they can join the event. You could sense the excitement in them seeing new faces of volunteers. They never get tired saying 'thank you' and waving their hands even if takes a lot of strength for them to just raise their hands. They were already thrilled with a small talk even if you're just asking for their name. What sets them apart?! Even the simple pleasures in life like meeting a new friend or playing a plain, non-techy game brighten up their day.



They don't frustrate themselves in winning the game we played in fact we were the ones eager and competitive to get the blackout and shout Bingo for their card! They were also easily delighted by the simple prizes we prepared for them. We got so many things to learn from these grateful souls.



It has been a great privilege to bless others and serve God with your friends and officemates. God is truly amazing! From the planning stage until the actual event, He was there to guide us through. His provision is perfect and on time. Special thanks to people who extended their help in making this event possible. God bless you more than a thousand folds!


Initially we thought of blessing these folks that day but it turned out we were the ones who are more than blessed by their grateful heart and joyful spirit.

Faces of the elderly were advised not to be published in any form of social networking sites to protect their privacy but we will always remember their faces full of thanksgiving that any high-tech camera can never capture.

If you're interested to volunteer or help, you may visit their official website http://www.allsaintshome.org.sg/ or http://www.asvolunteer.blogspot.sg/ for more information.
In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’  --Acts 20:35

Sunday, November 10, 2013

Yolanda's Aftermath

Saturday, November 8, 2013 when super typhoon Yolanda(international name Haiyan) ravages the Philippines particularly Tacloban, Samar and nearby towns in the central Visayas, ransack properties, livelihood but most heartbreakingly took more than three thousands of lives.  


Yolanda's damage at Tacloban City.
Photo courtesy of newsinfo.inquirer.net
It's undeniable Visayas is in state of calamity and the country is mourning. Yes, we may not see the light yet, but every person who are willing to give assistance in any form is the light that will guide us through. Every Filipino, young or old, public figure or civilian, rich or poor, every neighboring country who extends their help and assistance is a building block of hope. 

You can help. I can help. We definitely can! Providing for the basic needs of the Yolanda casualties, is an essential help. An encouragement in action. No help is small. Every single help can make a big difference. A bottle of drinking water can quench the thirst of a tired soul who lost everything he had. A pair of clean clothes can warm a body of a woman who only had herself. A decent meal can give hope to a mother who doesn't think of herself anymore but what to feed her starving kids. All of these contributes to the day when we all pray that we would look back on this adversity but we no longer see the casualties instead we see resolute and unified Filipinos.

Your prayers will always be beneficial not only to the victims but also for you and me who prays and who's faith is strengthened knowing that there's a God in spite of all.
God gives His hardest battles to His toughest soldiers. 
Yes, we are devastated now, but it doesn't mean we'll forever be. The bayanihan spirit of the Filipinos and the grace of God will keep us standing on our feet, with hands ready to reach out for others who needs help. Again, there would be countless unsung heroes, who are ready to sacrifice in helping out their kababayans. Neighboring countries who selflessly donate and gives hope to the Filipino people. 

Pilipinas kaya natin to! We are born to brave the Pacific and no typhoon is strong enough to crush the courageous hearts of the Filipino people. We can definitely get through this! Yesterday with typhoon Ondoy(aka Ketsana), today with strongest typhoon in the world Yolanda and even with the future calamities.   

Don't just donate because its the right thing to do, donate to the right group of people or institution. Here's some of these organizations:  

http://www.redcross.org.ph/donate
http://www.worldvision.org.ph/press-center/urgent-your-help-needed-typhoon-yolanda-affected-families-visayas-region
http://www.supportunicef.org/site/c.dvKUI9OWInJ6H/b.8856405/k.2FAD/Donate_now_for_the_Philippines.htm

Another Blissful Year

I am truly overwhelmed with every blessing God has showered me, every miracle He let me experience, every person He brought into my life, every provision He remembers to give at the right time, every promise He never fail to keep, every single day He allowed me to live and witness His abounding love. Love that I am not worthy of, but still He freely gives.

Another year has passed and I can only vouch for God's great love and protection. Yes, there could be not-my-day season but I also know that the Lord allowed tough times so I could all the more appreciate the good times. Some bad-hair-days or im-not-into-myself moments, but I can also remember how the God of order de-clutter the mess I am in. There could be hit-to-bottom stage in my life where I almost give up but I can also look back on how God graciously restore me. Few inside-a-dark-tunnel-like days but I can also recall how God puts me back into the right perspective. Overall, I can only be grateful for everything He has done to me.

Life. Family. Career. Friends. Health. Relationship. Grateful Heart.

The innumerable greetings, messages, birthday cakes and celebrations are just the icings on top of the cake.

Birthday celebration with V.me QA Team


Birthday celebration with Housemates

Birthday celebration with Dgroup
Thank you Lord! God bless you guys!

Monday, November 4, 2013

Virgin America's In-flight Safety Video

Do you remember the first time you ride an airplane? I bet you're very attentive to the cabin crew as they demonstrate the aircraft's in-flight safety tips. But the more frequent you travel up in the air, you become accustomed to it, hence loose interest in the safety instructions. This is a known issue for all the airline companies, as it becomes harder to capture the attention of the passengers. Law of diminishing demand? or Attention Deficit Disorder? Haha both are hyperbole. Well whatever the cause is, the management and flight attendants from Virgin America employ their creative beans to bring together this boring yet essential in-flight safety tips to an impressive production number. They sing, they dance, they act, they rap but most importantly they inform. It's like a talent buffet.

Personally, I felt like watching a larger than life Glee performance. Enjoy and turn to the beat as you watch this video.

Caution: Too much exposure to this video may cause LSS(Last Song Syndrome).


Saturday, October 26, 2013

Father's Love

This video did not just entertained me big time! While most of us noticed how adorable the 4 year-old little girl is, this also highlighted how amazing and compelling the love of the dad to his child. This video did not just recorded how the father tried to encourage his child from being too scared of the sounds of fireworks when going to sleep, by trying to distract the very charming and talented toddler as he grab her pink ukelele and sing with her. This video captured the loving heart of the father to his daughter. 

The way he looked at her child is like God's statement assuring each one of His child, 'It's fine honey, Daddy's here.' His boundless patience reminded me how my heavenly Father had been so gentle and forgiving with me, for not giving up on me in spite of the many times I disappointed Him. His joy singing with his child exhibits how in the same way our God takes pleasure in spending time with us, his children. 

This is a salute to all responsible earthly fathers who give their best in raising children entrusted to them and a great reminder of the unconditional love of our heavenly Father. 


Sunday, October 20, 2013

Hillsong: Yours is the Kingdom

This song says it all! First heard this sung during our Single's Retreat last October 11-13 at Tanjong Puteri Golf Resort in Malaysia and it captures me. My heart tells me to just delight in that moment as I sing my heart out to the God of the universe. 

Thank you Lord for the gift of music to all humanity. For the freedom to sing worship songs to our Creator. For the opportunity to come together as a family and praise our Saviour Jesus Christ. Thank you for the instruments and our voices which all comes from You and for You alone. 

Thank you that You never look at the quality of our voices but the condition of our heart, our humble desire to worship You. For Yours is the Kingdom and the Power and the Glory and the Honour. Forever and ever!     


Yours Is The Kingdom
Hillsong

Yours is the Kingdom
And the power
And the glory forever is Yours
Heaven and earth bow down
In the wonder of Your Name
Heaven is open
Death is broken
And the glory forever is Yours
Nothing can overcome
The power of Your Name

King above kings
All the universe will sing
Everlasting God
You are wonderful
You are wonderful

And the shout of the earth
Will be Your praise
God forever
And the light unto all
Will be Your wonderful Name
For the glory Lord is Yours
God forever
All the glory Lord is Yours

Sunday, October 6, 2013

When God Speaks

I don't consider myself a people person. Most of the time crowd intimidates me. Which is one of the reason why I tend to sit still in one corner, content to observe people and completely be satisfied with my quietness. For sometime I live in the adage, don't bug me and I will not bug you.

In spite of this hidden personality, I am blessed to have a handful of amazing people whom I already have the guts to come out of my shell. Wonderful friends who I became comfortable to be me. First thanks to God for bringing these guys in my life, second thanks to time for letting me make history and spend life with them.

So when the Single's Retreat was announced in our church, I must admit that I am skeptical to register and join the activity. Then I've known that convention starts on a Friday at 3:30pm, this gave me a seemingly valid cover up that I would not be able to join since our team already submitted our leaves for the current sprint we are working on and I haven't submitted one for this event. My mind convinces me, "You have a valid reason Girlie, it should be fine."

But during our discipleship group yesterday right after the Sunday worship service in CCF. My leader mentioned that other participants will be joining the retreat on later time of Friday, 8pm. My mind begin to panic, I am not prepared for anything to say in case my leader asks me if that setup works for me. At the end of our discussion, I still did not made any commitment to them whether I can go or not. But I made a commitment to God that I will pray about it. I even asked Him to give me clear sign that He really wanted me to be in that retreat, sorry if I am playing hard to get.

Sunday afternoon, on my way home while riding in a bus, I saw this gigantic McDonald's signage, where the word "Retreat" was shouting out loud to me.



But my mind persists to bargain, "This is not a valid sign Lord, yes its a sign literally. A signage! But it's not counted. Can you please give me a credible Bible verse(yeah that sound more spiritual and mature!) so I would know it's really from you." I can imagine God scratching His head and telling me, "You asked for a sign, I gave you one Girlie!" Thank God for His patience to one unyielding daughter like me.

This morning while doing my devotion, I checked YouVersion, a Bible application on mobile phone and saw this as verse for the day:
How lovely on the mountains
Are the feet of him who brings good news,
Who announces peace
And brings good news of happiness,
Who announces salvation,
And says to Zion, “Your God reigns!”  -- Isaiah 52:7
This time no more questioning. I heard you Lord, crystal clear. Positive! God wanted me to go to the retreat, spend time with Him in the mountain with great anticipation that He alone can give me  genuine peace, good news and happiness. But more than those perks I can have the opportunity to honor and worship the One true God. How cool is that! :D

Bottom line! When God speaks to you, yield! And expect great things to happen, because you have a great living God!



Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Five Things I Learned from Hypotension

Last Saturday, I was caught off guard with a condition which crippled me for several days.

Being used to living an active life with 5 kilometers run weekly and attending yoga at least twice or thrice a week. My dreams shattered when I wake up one supposed-to-be-active-Saturday that my world is spinning around. Literally! My eyes cannot hide the fact that something is wrong in every step I attempt to make. Every single object is shifting places as if they're living things. Sigh. My blood pressure hit down to 95/60. I'm feeling dizzy and weak. I cannot focus and irritated.

What have I done wrong? How come I did not see this coming? While my mind refuse to believe that I have done nothing wrong, my body affirms my mistreat. Fine! I am convicted. I admit that I have not given proper care to my body for the past few days. With this monthly girl thing plus running in a 10 kilometer marathon the day after. Add to that attending one hour hot yoga on the fourth day and the consistent lack of proper sleep for the week. Made this hypotension-slash-low-blood-pressure equation inevitable.

But I cannot make this sickness to take the limelight. There's definitely a light at the end of the tunnel. Now that I can finally say I have seen and experienced the light. For by God's grace I am already well. Here's five of the many things I learned on my hypotension experience:

  1. Hydrate! Also after menstrual cycle, woman's body needs 10 days to produce the blood she lost. At least this is what the Doctor told me. Nourish yourself with foods rich in iron or take supplements.
  2. Rest is indispensable. Help your body recover with proper sleep.  
  3. Take things slow. Being inactive sometimes could be your most productive time. 
  4. Focus on life's essentials. Your health matters not only for yourself but for your loved ones as well.
  5. Remain hopeful. To look forward for the day that things will be back to normal and you could finally say goodbye to dizziness. 
Now let's get back to track! :D

Monday, September 30, 2013

Who You Are

Spoken poetry is like a music to my ears. A mouthwatering dessert which I will never grew tired of indulging myself. The last thing I knew I was hooked into it. I never imagined I'd be addicted to Sarah Kay for sometime. Tonight, spoken poetry find its way back home. :)  

Below video is another powerful and eloquent form of spoken poetry which should be heard by every woman here in the planet. A poem that is worth the cyberspace memory. A poem worth sharing. A poem that will inspire you to be the woman you are created to be. The woman of God!


You are beautiful
You are smart
You are funny
You are kind
You are unique
You are worthy of love and affection
You are never too much
You are always enough
You are precious
You are a diamond, a rose, a pearl
The most stunning of all God's creation
You are worth more than you could ever imagine
Worth more than the numbers on the scale
Or the hair products you use
Or the shoes you wear
More than how many girls wish they were you
Or how many guys wish they had you
More than the price tag in your clothes
Or the percentage of  the top of your Math tests
Or even the numbers of followers you have in Twitter
Your worth surpasses all earthly things because in the eyes of the Lord God
You are loved
You are worth dying for
Regardless of who you think you are
Whether you are a model in the magazine or you model pottery with grandma
Whether you are in the hot list of the not list
Whether you are head cheer leader or a high school drop out
Whether you are miss popular or you never had anyone you could call a friend
Whether you love yourself and love your life or you can't stand to look in the mirror and you feel as if everything in your life is falling apart
Whether you are such a winner or you feel you're the world's biggest failure
Regardless of who you think you are, the reality is,
Is that you deserve someone who would give up their life for you
Because you are powerful
You are strong
You are capable
Read about the women in the bible Esther, Ruth, Martha, Mary
Each women changed the world forever
And inside of you, each and every one of you
Is the woman with the same power, same world changing capability
And your responsibility is to find that woman and set that woman free
This is who you are
And any voices in your mind that tell you differently are from the enemy
And the next time you hear it, this is what you say
You say, "Na Ah! Not me Satan!
I am a daughter of the living God.
Cherished, loved and adored
Above all things, by the Creator of all things
For the glory of Him is greater that all things
I am awesome!"
Please, don't you forget.

Saturday, September 28, 2013

You Can Make a Difference

You can make a difference.
Your simple act of random kindness can impact one's life.
Your generosity to a stranger may not change your world but it can change his.
Your sincere apology can be the breakthrough that will strengthen your bond.
Your calmness in the midst of chaos can give others that piece of hope they needed in order to survive. 
Your genuine smile can brighten up a person's tough day.
Your heartfelt encouragement may save a life.
Your modest pat on the back can bring out the next leader of your country.   
Your honest rebuke said with affection may deliver that person from future adversity.
Your loving hug can restore a broken relationship. 
Your candid morning greeting can turn a person's morning good!
Your humility to accept your mistake can gain respect from others.  
Your compliment can inspire a child to be the athlete, artist or professional he always dreams to be.
Your cheerful presence may set a welcoming mood for others to be themselves.
Your willingness to share can make all the difference.

Hope this 3 minute video sparks a new perspective on how we should look at humanity. 



“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.” --Winston Churchill

Thursday, September 19, 2013

I Wrote This For You

I wrote this vow even before I met you.
Not because I am a typical girl who believes in fairytale love story.
Or a princess who longs for a prince who will sweep her off her feet.

I wrote this because I knew you were real.
Busy working his heart out to build his dreams.
Finding himself and making his own story.
That just like me you are also hopeful.

You may not have a face yet, but I know you are worth more than a face.
You are a soul full of love to give, a man of integrity, a man of God.

You are far from perfect but so am I.
We may not have the ideal relationship but who does have.

Today, I choose you.
To laugh with you in good times and comfort you in your darkest moments.
To grow with you even if it means unlearning things I used to know or relearning things in your perspective.
To build our dreams together.

I cannot promise that you'll never have problems from now on.
But I commit to you that you will never have to face them alone.

I commit to make this relationship work, nurturing it every single day of our life together.
I commit to accept you as who you are and respect our differences.

I don't believe in you.
I don't believe in me.
But I believe in us.
I believe in forever because I knew that you will be there.

Monday, September 2, 2013

Stands versus Court Analogy

In every organization or team there will only be two types of people. The one who is in the stands or the one who is in the court.

The one who is in the stands are people who can shout to the top of their lungs and blabber all they want while watching the game. These are the people who highlights the problem but doesn't provide solutions to it. They are the ones who doesn't give way for others opinion because what only matters to them is theirs as if their idea will solve the greatest problem of humanity. People who are easy to point out the mistakes of others. People who does not know how to listen. People who are fast to criticize but slow to compliment. But these kind of people no matter how loud they shout, they will never be able to add a single point of advantage for the team, because they are not really part of the game.

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On the other hand, the one who is in the court is a team player.  A person who understands that no role is trivial, for every position if done efficiently will be a fundamental contribution for the team to achieve its goal. He is a person who is humble enough to recognize other player's talent and encourage them. Person who is not afraid to share his knowledge and build up people. Not insecure enough to think that others might outshine them. Person who recognize that it's not all the time that his ideas are the best ones. Person who accepts his weaknesses but work his way out in improving himself. He is the kind of person who gives his best and do the extra mile in every task assigned to him. A person who does not crave for approval and validation of his skill because he already knew what he's capable of. The one who is in the court will always have the opportunity to contribute to the team, because they chose to be part of the solution.

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What kind of employee are you? Don't remain shouting in the stands when you can be the one playing in the court. And when the time comes that the ball is in your hand, work your heart out and give your best. You'd never know, the crowd would never know, that that single shot you'll make could define the winning moment for your team.

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First heard this analogy during one of the scrums slash team meeting we had from my lead here in Singapore. And I would say one of my light bulb moment. Only this time I have the chance to write about it. Finally!